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Wednesday, September 29, 2010

The Two Keys That Will Define Your Life's Destiny

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This is a reworking of a post from last year - all comments are appreciated and as always the tone is intended to perhaps momentarily cause pause for thought and not to lecture - and the pic should reinforce that the message is delivered with a little irreverent humor - hope you enjoy...

On a daily basis I observe stressed out puffed out, morbidly obese, frustrated, underpaid emotional bankrupts stumbling blindly through the daily monotony that defines their mortality and bereft of any enthusiasm, joy or hope.

So who these people are that I’m hanging out with?  I’d guess they’re the same poor souls you notice everyday vacuous with funereal expressions in cubicles, factories, shops or commuting in cars, buses and trains like the living dead!

Most of us in the Western World don't live in some Dickensian world of poverty, rather in a modern golden age surrounded by abundance. In a world of unparalleled opportunity, where the barriers of social standing no longer inhibit upward mobility, how is it that the barometer of health and happiness, often labeled 'Life Balance' seems to be so out of kilter?

Stress, obesity, frustration, and empty relationships are mostly a manifestation, not of unfortunate luck or inherent genetic flaw but something profoundly simpler. I'll call it 'sclerosis of the attitudes'. This is obviously a play on words, referring to that other devastating health issue: the hardening of the arteries.

I have studied the subject of self concept, belief, value systems, and the degree to which it is a predicator of general well-being and a question comes to mind. Whilst feeling good about ourselves undoubtedly is of huge benefit in attracting positive energy of people and circumstances in to our lives, it doesn’t answer this question; How to you acquire this magical state of being? A life of contented balance.

The two magic ingredients that will propel you to untold heights of attainment in any area of your life are the following. Wait for the drum roll! Inspiration and Aspiration.

Aspiration is the visualization or goal that you desire to achieve. Much frustration in life is a factor, not of unfulfilled dreams, but rather the emptiness left in the absence of a precise measurable target. The comfort zone of familiarity is often a bleak place, and alas often a prison of our own making, This failure to spot the horizon and the possibilities that lie just beyond, tie us to our worlds of quiet desperation.

Inspiration is the ingredient that enables obese people to lose 60KG’s in six months after a lifetime of misery. That motivates a blind person to scale Everest, a mother to work three jobs to send her kids to private school and factory workers to become over night self-made millionaires in their spare time.

Curiously, these chains that bind us to the status quo are often a eureka insight instant away from being lost forever. There is often a moment of clarity that precedes all great success.

It might be a word of encouragement or a television documentary that inspires us to make decisions and take new actions. 

Occasionally it can be that moment when we reach rock bottom. That moment of darkness before the dawn when we finally become sick and tired of being sick and tired and truly decide that something must change, and it must change now.

For some people this moment happens at a young age, for some in middle age and alas for the majority it never happens. The beauty of this insight however is how simple it is to implement, and thus utterly change your life experiences.

30 minutes invested in brainstorming and committing to paper your dreams hopes and aspirations is the first step.

The second step is marginally more difficult. Find a role model. Or two or three. If you want to lose weight, then simply Google the topic, jump on to YouTube and find someone that you can relate to, connect and get inspired. The inspiration will motivate you to take action.

If you are in an unhappy relationship, then decide what you want. Either take the steps to make the relationship work or ‘get the hell out!’ At the risk of upsetting some people “this ain’t no dress rehearsal”

If you're underwhelmed by your job, or are financially embarrassed, then look for a mentor or role model whose been down that road and achieved success. There are people achieving outstanding success online everyday with relatively little investment in time and money.

Take some action steps. Make some connections and get out of that less than comfortable default zone, fast.

Inspiration and aspiration will ultimately define your future success in every area of life. Enjoy your journey!

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  1. Hi Kiaran,

    thanks for another thought-provoking story and some nice pictures ;-)

    I think many people have inspirations or defining moments soon enough in their lifetime, the question is: Are they aware of them with all that chatter going on in their mind ?

    Chances are that on their death bed, they admit to themselves that they could have had all the opportunities and abundance life has to offer.

    Take care


  2. Hey Kiaran.

    I'm glad you were able to re-purpose this post. There's a lot of value in knowing what greatness we already have within us. So, being able to find that by letting that out is very good thing to do.

    I wish more people can see and value how great they are, despite their internal voices that tells them otherwise.

    Talk to you later.
    Jerome Ratliff

  3. Hey Kiaran,

    There are so many individuals that don't even know that they have a champions heart. No clue that they have already won.

    Chat with you later...

  4. Hi Kiaran,

    Those are 2 powerful words.

    I agree with what you said, "The comfort zone of familiarity is often a bleak place, and alas often a prison of our own making"

    It sure can be! I was just speaking with my father-in-law today along these lines.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

  5. Hi Kiaran,

    Inspiring post. It's very helpful to surround ourselves with success stories. Success we see in he people around us helps us to believe it is possible for us and can help us feel motivated to take those steps.

    Thanks for sharing!


  6. What an inspirational post, Kiaran. Thanks for sharing the inspiration.

    All the best,
    Mavis Nong

  7. A great post, Kiaran - simple yet profound. It seems that inspiration and aspiration are two things that have fallen by the wayside over the last 50 years. I think it's time for them to make a comeback. Thanks for sharing.

    Wishing you a song in your heart,

  8. Hey Kiaran, You bring out some good points with seeking help in others. That's often a tough thing for people. It can be hard to find our inspiration and aspiration completely on our own. Nice Post, Thanks!

  9. Quite an interesting post. I like the points you make and I especially like the opening introduction to your blog. Very humorous and inviting. Thanks for sharing.