This may seem a bit harsh and confronting but there's a truth here if we accept it.
"You are today because that is where you have chosen to be. You are free to choose your actions, or inactions, and your life today is the sum total of your choices, good and bad. If you want your future to be different, you have to make better choices.
.....you can learn anything you need to learn to become anyone you want to become, to achieve anything you want to achieve. There are very few limitations and most of them are on the inside, not on the outside"